if you like me i’ll literally never realize it until you tell me, “I like you” and even then I’m still not sure
Lesbian characters wearing maroon jackets with black leather sleeves.
Shit is this the new uniform??
Attention all lesbian personell! New uniform regulations are in place as of August 14! SIGNAL BOOST!/
Many people believe every age marks something significant, that you should accomplish a certain something by a certain time. Your first kiss, losing your virginity, getting married. Learning to drive, knowing what you want to be, succeeding in your goals. But that’s not true. Let things just happen. Make sure you’re ready. Stay wise. Give yourself time to develop. There is no rush to live.
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well this was gonna be korrasami fan art but
you know, naga
Think about it: Most people back then had limited interactions with people from China and other Asian countries. So playwrights and writers had to come up with a shorthand way of saying, “This is Chinese; this is Asian.” This building of a viewpoint — a viewpoint that in many ways is still with us, that people of Asian descent are intrinsically foreign — is echoed time and time again in various cartoons from the early 1900s that feature the riff: Someone, somewhere decided that this short musical phrase — and others like it — could represent an entire region or identity. And it stuck.
This is FANTASTIC.
Yes!! I found this story so interesting this morning. I did a project in film music class in college on Aladdin, and it was pretty notable that Aladdin the character was given themes clearly marked out as Western—and how many of the minor characters, particularly those marked as bad guys, were given the kind of Arab shorthand equivalent of the “Kung Fu Fighting” music. While Disney was being called out for explicit racism in the lyrics, most people weren’t bothering to comment on the much more subtle game they were playing with the score—one that was likely just upholding old prejudiced musical cues that developed in a similar way to this “Asian” theme.
Also I just tried to listen to the Aladdin soundtrack and heard Robin Williams and had to turn it off before I started crying in public.
The use of musical shorthand to signify entire cultures goes back to the classical era. Different cultures over time have been the “go-to” foreign sound. In Mozart’s era it was “Turkish” music and a vague, undefined east that was used - see for example his famous “rondo a la turk” and the Opera “The Escape from the Saraglio.”
In the late nineteenth century the new fashion was “Orientalism” which you saw in many extremely popular Operas of the day with varying success - such a Gilbert and Sullivan’s “The Mikado” and Puccini “Madame Butterfly.” Both these opera were set in Japan, but either had western protagonists as well or were a send up of European culture.
Puccini china-set final Opera “Turandot” is a perfect example of a western composer integrating what he thought was “asian” sounds into his music and using specific musical short hard to do it.
To understand this, you have to know that most western music is based on what’s a scale with seven notes in it (do re mi fa so la ti). Most eratern music is not and is instead based on a Pentatonic scale (do re so la ti). You can play one easily yourself by just playing the black keys on a piano.
In Turandot, Puccini used Penatonic scales all over the place, and the result is beautiful and still not so overly “oriental” that it becomes an offensive pastiche.
Composers all over use short hand in the forms of certain scales, keys, chords and intervals to communicate certain cultures - but it often requires the listener to recognize the “code.” For instance, the opening lines of “Blue Skies” by Irving Berlin were written in a way that was meant to sound “Jewish” (Given that Irving Berlin was a Russian Jew, this is understandable) and the listeners back in the 1920s would have known and heard that.
All in all a fascinating subject!
I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.
Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”
P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”
So much this…
When I’m at my worst, just being invited to drive with you while you run errands is often enough to keep me from doing a complete downward spiral, but please don’t guilt people for not being able to hang out… It’s the worst feeling of shame for having depression in the first place on top of worrying that you will lose those you love for being a shitty friend.
Academia can be overwhelmingly foreign and hostile to those who have poor or working-class backgrounds. For people who are from the working class and also queer, the obstacles to earning a graduate degree may prove insurmountable. Frequently discouraged from attending college in the first place, these students often struggle to pay for their education while they simultaneously battle prejudice and discrimination because of their sexual orientation and blue-collar backgrounds.
Resilience offers inspiring personal stories of those who made it: thirteen professors and administrators provide their moving accounts of struggle, marginalization, and triumph in the accomplishments that their parents, guidance counselors, and sometimes even they themselves would have thought out of reach. These scholars write in a manner that will enable readers to reconsider their own assumptions and to empathize with the oppression that accompanies being defined as “other.”
his life was totally in danger.
True story; this officer (John Pike) got a settlement of $38,000 because he said he got depressed after pepper spraying these kids. Oh, the depression wasn’t for feeling remorseful for pepper spraying a bunch of college kids peacefully protesting. He got depressed because he said since the media kept playing the video of him pepper spraying peaceful kids without cause, he got threats and didn’t feel safe. He didn’t feel safe. I’m not making that up. This motherfucker collected nearly 40 grand on worker’s comp after assaulting a bunch of college kids.
I’ve been staring at this for a long time and I keep getting angrier and just think about how great it would be if someone would have run up and smashed him in the face with a bat.
if you like me i’ll literally never realize it until you tell me, “I like you” and even then I’m still not sure
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Some of you might know that I moved to San Francisco recently. Two days ago, really. My lease in Chicago was ending at the end of August so in early July I had to decide whether good stuff in my personal life warranted big professional risk, i.e. unemployment. I decided it did, and submitted my resignation without my next job lined up. I had about 7-8 applications out at the time and I was in early interview stages for a few. By the time I accepted the position I’ll be starting September 8 (more details on that forthcoming!), I had heard back and interviewed with all but one of the positions I applied for—I also received two offers. As tempted as I was to chalk up this job hunting success to “omg this totally means I was supposed to move to SF and cohabitate and be wildly happy 4evr and evr” (I DO feel this way, too), it was also very clearly the result of much job search practice and a few key maneuvers I’ll detail here.
1) Do you want a (new) job in 2-3 years? Start applying and interviewing now. Practice, practice, practice. Practice writing letters, updating your resume, fussing around with your references, puzzling over job requirements. I’ve been applying to jobs here and there for almost the past two years. There was never a sense of urgency, but I know I wouldn’t have been able to push through this process without all that practice behind me. Most important of all, practice interviewing. Especially the damned phone interview. I firmly believe I couldn’t competently pass an initial phone interview until my 5th try. It’s hard. Bring three solid stories (a time you led a project/change, a time you failed, a time you worked with a team) and three solid questions to every interview. Know your shit—about them and about yourself.
2) I DON’T CARE HOW TIRED OF HEARING ABOUT IT YOU ARE, IT IS ALL ABOUT THE COVER LETTER. UNLESS YOUR PARENT OR GUARDIAN OR OTHER PAL PRONE TO NEPOTISM RUNS THE LIBRARY YOU’RE APPLYING TO YOU BETTER HAVE THE BEST DAMN COVER LETTER EVER FOR EVERY. SINGLE. JOB YOU APPLY TO. FLATTER THEM. TELL THEM WHAT YOU’LL DO FOR THEM. DON’T TELL THEM WHAT YOUR RESUME ALREADY TELLS THEM YOU DID ONCE AT SOME OTHER JOB. TELL THEM WHY YOU’RE THE BEST PERSON TO WORK FOR THEM. FIND A FRIEND WHO WILL TEAR THAT SHIT UP AGAIN AND AGAIN UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND WTF A COVER LETTER IS ACTUALLY SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE. NO TYPOS. NO WHINING. WRITE THE BEST COVER LETTER EVER, EVERY TIME. YES THESE ALL CAPS INDICATE MY SHRILL HARPY TONE ON THE SUBJECT.
3. Stalk down some one, anyone who can pass your materials along. This is no guarantee, but it’s better than a stick in the eye. Once again, tumblr got me a job. Through a URL/Tumblr friend, I was able to connect with a wonderful woman who works for my future employer. Every person I interviewed with (all 4 of them) noted the fact that my resume had been passed along by this woman. This woman who I have NEVER met. But, as we have a mutual friend thanks to the Internet, good human nature and trust prevailed, and I had an in on other candidates. Connections matter, from URL to IRL. If you’re in the hunt, remember this at all time. Yes, LinkedIn DOES come in handy. It’s a way to share/see connections and keep control of your professional profile. Don’t neglect or delete it—you could be one connection away from a dream job.
4) If you find yourself needing advice, or trying to decide between more than one offer, seek counsel from someone who could be your boss in your NEXT next job. Yes, I was lucky enough to have two offers in my lap. And I was badly torn between the two. They were wildly different in almost every aspect, but both appealed to different areas of my strengths and potential (there’s a lot to be said for taking the job that will develop your potential, btw). I asked everyone I trusted, personally and professionally, for advice. I was up at night worrying. One person I asked, which gave me a really unique perspective on my ‘problem,’ was a librarian in a leadership position in a library I would love to work for one day. I asked of the two jobs, which would set me up in the best position to transition into the NEXT job I think I would like to have. I got the answer I suspected, but it was reassuring to get the opinion nonetheless. In the end, the answer came to me after some more self-examination and salary negotiation—but the advice stuck with me throughout the process. Oh and by the way we can repeat this all day and it still should be said again: humans are nice and helpful and you CAN reach out to them whether or not you’ve met in real life. Own your career and your path and ask questions. Someone is likely to help.
If you have any more questions for me on the process, please feel free to reach out. I’m happy to help, too. I’m so excited to begin my next professional adventure and I can’t wait to bring you all along, too. Your support has been immeasurable. Tumblr comes through again and again. All my thanks.
So much good advice in here. And of course I’d like to offer a healthy helping of congratulations to Kate. Welcome to San Francisco!
Fantastic advice that applies to any career.